I Love Him, but--- Because

I love him because he gives me the courage to dream big...
I love him because he helps me see my worth and realize how valuable I am with everything I have...
I love him because he accompanies me through my days, making them feel better...
I love him because he accepts my past, even when I feel I don't deserve the best...
I love him because he never judges me and always believes I can be my best self...
I love him because he gives me strength when I feel insecure...
I love him because he listens to me when my emotions are in chaos...
I love him because he calls me beautiful, even when I don't feel like I am...
I love him because he motivates me in my work...
I love him because he reminds me I can do it when I doubt myself...

These are my 10 reasons for loving him.

Are they good reasons? Absolutely, yes. But are they entirely right? That’s up for debate.

It’s true—someone’s actions or words can change our lives. They can give us courage, make us feel loved, and help us see our worth when we struggle to recognize it ourselves. That’s why being in the right environment is crucial. Meeting people who genuinely want the best for you without expecting anything in return is invaluable. To be loved sincerely is one of the greatest feelings in the world, yet not everyone gets to experience it.

Having someone who appreciates you after a long, tiring day, who listens when no one else does, and who boosts your confidence can make a profound difference in your life. Naturally, you want to cherish these people and fear losing them. It’s easy to love someone for these 10 reasons, but loving someone based solely on these reasons can be deeply flawed.

The Flaws in These Reasons

1. I love him because he gives me the courage to dream big.
   Why do you need someone else to give you the courage to dream big? Can’t you dream big on your own?
2. I love him because he helps me see my worth and value.
   Why did it take being with someone else for you to realize your value?
3. I love him because he makes my days feel better.
   Have you learned how to make your own days better when you’re alone?
4. I love him because he accepts my past when I feel unworthy of the best.
   Have you not yet accepted your own past? Do you need someone else to validate it for you?
5. I love him because he never judges me and believes in my potential.
   Why do you feel judged? Is it because you haven’t built enough confidence in yourself yet?
6. I love him because he gives me strength when I feel insecure.
   Will you still feel insecure when you’re alone?
7. I love him because he listens when my emotions are chaotic.
   Have you learned to be your own best friend and process your emotions independently?
8. I love him because he calls me beautiful when I feel unattractive.
   Darling, you are inherently beautiful. Why do you need someone else to remind you of this?
9. I love him because he motivates me in my work.
   Would you lose motivation without him by your side?
10. I love him because he reassures me when I doubt myself.
    Do you not yet trust your own abilities and need someone else to believe in you first?

If those are the reasons you love someone, it may mean you don’t yet love yourself enough.

You are beautiful the way you are—with the way you pair your clothes, match your bag with your T-shirt, choose peach blush for your daily makeup, or wear red lipstick for a night out with friends. Every woman has her own beauty, and I truly believe you don’t need someone to enter your life and tell you you’re beautiful just so you can believe it yourself.

You are a valuable human being.
Out there, there might be a stranger you once helped who will never forget the way you smiled and lent a hand. There’s a friend who remembers the words you said and passes them along to others. You are worthy because you completed your tasks well, even when your body was not feeling well. Someone’s prayer might have been answered the day God sent you to help them.

Right now, you’re already a better person than you were before. Every month, you learn something new. You’ve reflected on your mistakes and worked to avoid repeating them. You’ve fought your way out of toxic friendships. Now, you’re stronger and more mature because you survived a challenging past. No one truly understands how hard it was to endure those bad days—only you know. That’s why you must believe that you don’t need someone else to accept your past, because you’ve already done your best and become the amazing person you are today.

You have a kind heart. You’ve fed stray cats when they were hungry. You’ve tried to understand others even when you desperately wanted to be understood. You’ve worked hard to bring happiness to the people you love, even when happiness felt out of reach for yourself. You’ve stayed up late just to comfort a friend in pain.

You have value.
It’s in the way you soothe someone’s sadness, the wisdom you use to bring joy to others, the words you choose, the strength you’ve shown in rising from your past, and the help you’ve given to those in need. These are the things that define your worth.

You don’t need to wait for someone to come into your life and tell you that you’re valuable. Because you already are. Always have been. Always will be.

If you haven’t yet realized the beauty within you and all the incredible things you possess, you risk falling apart when the person you love leaves, or when you no longer see or feel the 10 reasons why you love them.

What if, one day, the way they communicate with you no longer makes you feel valued?
What if, someday, you stop feeling beautiful and become overwhelmed by insecurity?
What if the person you thought was your motivation to work no longer inspires you?

My dear, you would crumble, because you’ve built your confidence and happiness on what you hear from them, rather than on the foundation of belief and trust in yourself. Because I’ve been there... where I saw my value because someone told me so, where I felt confident because someone made me feel attractive, where I felt happy because I didn’t believe I could create my own happiness. I’ve been without my foundation to believe in myself and my worth.

True strength lies in knowing your worth, independent of others’ words or actions. Love can be beautiful and inspiring, but it should never be the sole source of your validation. Build a relationship with yourself first—one that is rooted in self-love, self-respect, and self-worth. When you truly know and believe in your own value, no external circumstances can take that away from you.

Please, love someone who helps you love yourself even more.

Love someone because they have a kind heart, just as you know you have a kind heart.
Love someone because they work hard for their life, just as you’ve worked hard for yours.
Love someone because they show themselves to be trustworthy, as you strive to be the same.
Love someone for how they take care of themselves, because you also know how to care for yourself.
Love someone for how they learn from their mistakes and solve problems, because you too are someone who learns from your mistakes and has the courage to grow.

Never let anyone come into your life and become the sole reason you love yourself.
Because long before anyone entered your world, you already loved yourself.

That way, if someone doesn’t meet your expectations, it won’t make you question your worth. If someone leaves your life, it won’t make you feel unattractive or unworthy. You’ll always know how beautiful your heart is and how valuable you are.

No one should have the power to define your worth—whether they enter or exit your life. That power belongs to you and you alone.

Promise me that no matter what happens, losing someone will not destroy your life. Promise me that no one will be the reason you feel insecure, the reason you don't see your worth, and the reason you feel like you're not beautiful.

With love, D

xoxo