How to Deal With Your Broken Heart

I will discuss how to deal with a broken heart in an elegant way.

I’m not writing this because I’m currently heartbroken or because my love life is full of luck.

Instead, I’m writing this because I am very happy and quite proud of myself right now.

I hope that by reading this article, you will receive a clear reminder that loving yourself is a priority before you love someone else.

There are several points you should emphasize to yourself before learning how to deal with your broken heart:

1. When you do your best for someone, never expect the same in return. Everyone has a different way of expressing themselves, repaying kindness, and showing affection. Your best might be expressing love with gifts, while their best might be giving quality time. Everyone has a different way, and you need to understand that.
2. When you think other people are important, you are no less "important." Never prioritize someone who sidelines you. You are important too. If you strive to make others happy, make sure you also strive to make yourself happy. Once again, let me emphasize, "You are important," understand?
3. You will always be inadequate in the eyes of someone who doesn't know how to be grateful. There are many wealthy men and beautiful women out there. We will always find someone who has more than we do. Look for a partner who knows how to be grateful. If they know how to be grateful, you are more than enough for them. And don’t forget to apply this to your life as well. Be grateful for everything, big or small, that you have, including your family and your partner.

*Note: This doesn’t mean you can stop to improve yourself.

How to deal with your broken heart?

I just want to tell those of you who are heartbroken and dealing with it by getting drunk, saying things like "Without you, I’m lost" or "Without you, I’m ruined" – you are being overly dramatic.

Sadly, I used to be that dramatic too, though I can’t remember when. The point is, I’ve been there.

That won’t make them regret anything.

It makes you look weak.

It makes them proud because they feel irreplaceable.

Okay, maybe you loved them that much, that deeply.

Is one month enough for you to lose your normal sleep schedule?

Is one month enough for you to lose your work quality just because of someone?

Is one month enough for you to stalk them all the time?

Enough.

Upgrade yourself. LISTEN carefully.

"Every time someone breaks your heart, your self-worth increases by one level."

I always instill this thought in my life, not just in relationships but in friendships too.

"You are important. I am important too."

You must have had someone you were proud of because they were high-quality in your eyes.

They were successful, religious, attractive, or had qualities you admired. When you lose them, it’s regrettable because they were high-quality. But remember, they are also losing you, a high-quality person.

Maybe one day they will think, "It’s a shame we broke up. Now she’s even more beautiful/smarter/better in her career."

That’s why self-improvement is a must.

Not for those who don’t appreciate you, not for praise, but for yourself, and it’s a bonus for the person who will one day have you.

Every time your heart is broken, you become one level better than you were before.

Keep improving yourself until you can say, "Sorry, you’re not my type anymore," to the jerk who took you for granted.

"He left me, he cheated on me. Maybe I’m not pretty enough."

Don’t be insecure; he doesn’t know how to be grateful. You should enhance your beauty for YOURSELF. You will be more confident. When you are confident and know your worth, you will realize you’re wasting time on someone who doesn’t know how to be grateful.

If he belittles your financial status, let that drive you to work harder. When you succeed, you will understand that your standards are not for people who only see quality through money.

If your feelings for the person who took you for granted are still too strong, keep improving yourself in all aspects – character, career, looks, studies, and many other positive things.

Keep improving yourself until you can give yourself a wake-up call: "I’ve become a better version of myself. Should I really go back to someone who didn’t appreciate me?"

This way, you won’t be foolish enough to go back to someone who took you for granted.

There’s no such thing in my life as saying, "I’ve become prettier, kinder, my career is clear. I’m worthy of getting back with you," to someone who treated me poorly. That’s not me!

"I am now a better person; should I go back to someone who only brings me down?"

"I am now beautiful; should I go back to someone who didn’t appreciate me?"

*Note: Even if you are in a relationship, you should still improve yourself. The phrase "I accept you as you are" is nonsense. Never stop self-reflecting.

When you become a better, high-quality version of yourself, those who didn’t appreciate you and looked down on you will realize you became better without them.

That means you’ve become a better version of yourself after losing someone.

Not all losses are bad; you just need to choose whether to become a better version of yourself or to downgrade, becoming more insecure and unable to counter the negative things they said about you because you didn’t improve yourself.

That’s all.

:) With love, D